In a society where everyone finds happiness in gaining more possessions we are forgetful that we do not *need* all of these things to survive.

I'm not just talking about technology, cell phones, computers, microwaves, and big screen T.V.'s. I'm also talking about people. We have a control issue, and the more we control the more powerful we think we are. Yet it is quite the opposite, If you feel you need anything to survive other than the food, water and shelter then you have grown very weak. If you feel you cannot live without that special someone in your life, you have shown dependency. I am not saying that people cannot be happily married and live together, I am simply saying that when you do not realize that you do not *need* these things to survive your idea of "self" becomes very weak. This comes back to "Who You Are". Weakness is something that others will thrive on.

The rich in our country thrive on the fact that the poor depend on them to survive. The poor depend on the jobs they provide, on the housing projects they provide and nearly everything else money related you can imagine. The government realizes how powerful dependency is, and how much control and power it restores to them. This is why the government tries to provide as much aide to the poor as possible. The more help they provide, the more support they receive, the more others will depend on them. This can be the same in a relationship, those who depend on their lovers to do for them what they can't do for themselves become weak. The more help the other lover provides, the weaker that person becomes. To a point where the weak person believes that Who They Are is a person who is weak and cannot overcome problems without the other's help. This can become extreme to a point of depression, as discussed in the first section.

When you control someone, you build a wall of ownership instead of a relationship of love between you and the other person. Instead of this person being independent and taking care of their own problems, they are helpless and boring. You have literally sucked the life out of them and their individuality and creativity. Everything that it means to celebrate who they are will be lost. You have to help them to be independent and give them the opportunity to grow as strong as you are. This happens many times in relationships when you come to the saying

"If you love somebody set them free" Sting seems to know of this truth, he sings a song with that very title. The lyrics to this song are incredible...

"Forever conditioned to believe that we can't live We can't live here and be happy with less So many riches, so many souls Everything we see that we want to possess" and thats just one quote, theres more.
Just look at the lyrics for yourself!

It is the emotion of fear that makes you weak. It's the emotion of fear that makes you believe that you are not capable of doing things on your own. This is especially so in a loving relationship. If you are a dependent person you will be fearful that your significant other will no longer love you if you try to take the control of situations they have previously dominated. If you speak up and say that you feel different about something, you may be fearful that they no longer love you. If you can find independence and continue to communicate Who You Are to others, then you will not have to worry about this communication block that forms between you and them. There will be more about honesty visibility and oneness in the next section.

Obsession is just like posessions, yet there is one thing you have to understand, there is a difference between wanting something to be so, and obsessing for it to be so. An obsession is a preoccupation or extreme desire for one thought or idea. When you obsess about one idea, you are striving for weakness, because you are concentrating so hard on this one idea that you are putting your "self" into it. You are becoming "one" with that idea. If you do this and this one thought does not come through for you, you will lose your "self". You may grow very angry when your one obsession does not come into your posession. If it is in your posession you will grow greedy and dependent on not losing this one thought or item or person. You must understand that when you control or capture other things, you are only controlling and capturing yourself. Now that we have come upon this new truth we explore it in the section entitled "Truth and Seeing Yourself as One".